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Did you make it through ' International Divorce Day'
this January without calling a lawyer!?
Are you dreading St. Valentine's Day?

Read on for a relationship overhaul in 2024

Newsletter #91


Dear Partners,


I've recently been coined the 'Relationship Rescuer'

by the inspirational, Harvard Business Review acclaimed

Media & Business Consultant Adela Hussain! 

With Divorce Day (1st Monday of January) behind us 

and St. Valentine's Day on the horizon, 

let's dig into some relationship restoration!


  According to Hernorm.com (December 2023) in 2023, approximately 50% of all marriages ended in divorce (USA) with subsequent marriages having an even higher rate of ending in divorce: 60% of second marriages and 73% 

of third marriages end in the dreaded big D!  

Furthermore, they cite that “bartenders and flight attendants are some of the most likely professions to divorce at 52.7% and 50.5% respectively, while scientists are some of the least likely, at just 19%.” (So maybe there’s more to Professor Brian Cox than just his pop band musical appeal!)

 

What will the stats be in 2024? With this costly affair 

happening all around us, what can we do to repair relationships 

rather than walk away when the going gets tough?


  


Here's an idea for even more successful relationships: 

Effective Communication!!!


When couples are able to hold respect for each other while communicating

 under pressure, listening to each other to repair what's broken, 

the results can be astounding!

 

So here are some techniques to help you put out 

the ‘proverbial fire' when things get heated:

 

1. Walk away. Yes, one of the best ways to avoid conflict going off the Richter scale is to take a pause and come back to it in a calmer state 

(preferably after both of you have been fed and watered)!

2. Have the discussion in a neutral place. We misbehave more in our homes. Take it outside. Walk around the park, the lake, the beach.

Plus; nature helps to calm nerves!

3. Write it down. By sending each other a note with specific issues and concerns, it gives the other time to reflect and prepare responses, 

rather than having impulsive/defensive reactions.

4. Listen…listen…and listen some more. You probably didn’t know your mom was quoting the Greek philosopher, Epictetus when she said: 

"We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen 

twice as much as we speak.” 

As tempting as it is to rush to defend yourself when your other half has just unfairly accused you of something, resist the urge and instead say 

"Tell me more" and listen to really understand. 

(These 3 magic words can calm the strongest disputes!)

5. Get help. Invest in YOU. The cost of a therapist/coach/counsellor is a lot less than most divorce settlements (financially and emotionally). 

We employ experts for other areas of our lives, 

so put your marriage to the top of the list 

and get some outside help for the inside struggles!


If your marriage is suffering,  

here are 3 calls to action that may be helpful: 


 

1.  Grab this quick 90-minute read: The Ego Tango www.theegotango.com 

or watch these short videos: The Ego Tango Playlist

2.  Watch this video on active listening: bit.ly/ACActiveListening

3.  Join me for my next skill building program ONLINE this April

 from the comfort of your own home! Click here.


Good luck and happy Partnering!

Amy


 


  

Why not offer the gift that keeps giving? 


Testimonial of the month:


 Dear Amy, 


I enjoyed your training in a professional setting last year. I wanted to give you an update and let you know how well your PPP method has been working for me in my personal life too! An unexpected bonus...

Having a busy house with 3 teenagers and a busy husband that downward inflection has become my go-to tool when I need to be heard (and respected!) I also used the Chicken Dance over the holiday when the discussions around the table got a little heated!

I am finding myself referring to the skills we practised at work and at home and I'm looking forward to the day my husband decides to read The Ego Tango too!


THANK YOU.

A happy Partner, UK


Click here and discover exactly what the Chicken Dance is!


  




A little surprise for the start of 2024!

Check out this fun video of my team and I. 

I want you to get to know who is behind the CCC machine! 

(Click here to watch)


  



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